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I read the following passage from a colleague: My research has gotten me thinking about how burnout has shown up in my own life, and in...

In therapy 3's are dangerous.  The potential for triangulation is rife.  Three means exclusion, secrets, pairs and pains.  Like the...

The year we spent in China was life-altering.  We learned to rely on each other in very specific ways, my husband for his stature...

Going through your younger years in isolation from peers and family is the ultimate loneliness.  When young people tell you I didn't...

IF my life was described nowadays, it would be soooo different.  The story of my life would be A. Trauma, B. Trauma Bonding C....

During a poetry therapy workshop I recently took, I wrote the following: Fear and change are part of the inevitability We shape the...

This past week, with the assault on Israel's way of life, will change the course of history.  A millennium old conflict will now be...

Working as a consultant for a local suicide prevention group, I have been exposed to harrowing stories and heartbreaking losses....

Welcome to my hometown where the breathtaking views of the Hudson only caution the inability to dip in. Life requires self-discipline and...

Everything is fine.  Anxiety - check, depression - check, trauma - check.  So why do I feel so bad? What if you just realized that your...

Now my big girl is turning 25. She is off to big law which means you continue law school knowing you are scooped up into a world of...

7.27 IN my family of origin, birthdays were big deals.  My Dad always called and said, "how could you be this old - that makes ME old!"...

I try to tell my clients and kids that no matter what is going on outside, pay attention to keeping yourself steady on the inside.  The...

After all the talking is the listening. Listening to your own inner wisdom takes time, patience and work.  Being quiet, peaceful and calm...

PHOTO CREDIT: MOMS' DEMAND ACTION Listening to Tara Brach on how to get unstuck and I realize that I have adult separation anxiety.  Why...

I want to fly like an eagle... Songs of the 70s. We are getting old.  Some of my classmates have already passed on.  I am nearing the age...

Make room for feelings. I just got back from my last child's college graduation.  It was not easy.  Kids drink and party and get...

I find myself thinking on death.  So many deaths around me, us.  So much loss and pain.  Your best friend's mother. Your other friend's...

How do you get unstuck from feeling like you're underwater? In this world of mass home-grown gun violence that terrorizes our own...

INTRO: Courtney was the kind of 10th grade client that I completely enjoyed.  She was cute, clever and motivated. So when she began to...